Comments on: On being a “nice-girl”

By: etstory

etstory — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:31:48 +0000

definitely not YOU:) — you were an awesome vbs director (and so was the other one, and she was really just trying to do her job, which as you know, is difficult!)

By: Petrea

Petrea — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 20:11:05 +0000

I hope I wasn’t that VBS director! Please forgive me if I was…

By: When Being Nice Is Not Loving « The Cruciform Life Blog

When Being Nice Is Not Loving « The Cruciform Life Blog — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 20:50:26 +0000

[...] Being Nice Is Not Loving My friend Elizabeth tells a story about how “being nice” kept her from loving God and loving others: I’ll [...]

By: Traylor Lovvorn

Traylor Lovvorn — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 20:06:53 +0000

Great post, Elizabeth! My life forever changed about 10 years ago when a friend introduced me to Cloud and Townsend’s “Boundaries”. Paul Coughlin mentions this in NMCNG and says we need to give people a good dose of “Vitamin N”…saying no.

Here is a fun exercise. When someone asks you to serve somewhere in church or in a ministry capacity and it isn’t a fit, simply say “No” without any explanation whatsoever. The person on the other end of the conversation will usually stand there expecting some explanation or reason and rarely will accept a simple “No”. It is so freeing to say “No” and not feel the pressure to explain yourself.